Writing topic pg 783
I am a twenty year old women who grew up knowing that I could be whatever I wanted to be. When I was little I would always tell my mom that I wanted to be a King, she said “Sure honey you can be whatever you want, but why a King not a Queen?” I would say “Because everyone listens to the boys.” It was at that time when my mom wanted to make sure I knew that I didn’t have to be a boy to be heard. My mother stayed at home while we were little, but before we were born she was an RN and only stopped to see us through our first five years, before school. My parents always made sure that I knew that I could be whomever and do whatever I wanted in life. I have an extreme type of personality so when you tell me I am just as good as someone else and that I need to be independent I take that to the max. I think that in this world today there are still many people who consider women to be the weaker gender. I know that thru the years we have evolved to the idea that women do not have to cook and clean all day and bow down to their man. However, do I think that men are completely comfortable that women are holding a lot of the top positions at big name companies? No. I personally am a big activist for women’s rights and equal rights and I think that there shouldn’t be any barriers, weather that be race, religion, sexual orientation, gender, we are all people. Although I do realize that there is a lot of work that needs to be done for the rest of the world to agree with that theory. I also need to take a step back with my own journey of becoming an independent and respected women. I am so caught up in proving that I can be the best, make good money, have a great job, be strong and independent that I am unable to let a man in at all. I often times find myself paying when I go out with someone, not because he doesn’t offer, but because I refuse. I also tend to get upset when a man assumes he needs to help me to my door. I kick myself for it afterwards, and realize hello its called “being a gentleman.” I need to find that middle ground of standing up for who I am as a women, but also letting a man be a man. In regards to Woolf’s attitudes about women I thin that it still is relevant. We as a nation are constantly evolving, but we are not there yet.
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I can see how some of your examples can be relevant, but I am on the other side of this spectrum. I believe that women have the same rights and opportunities as men do. I’m not saying that “everyone” looks at women being equal but I am saying that women are given equal opportunities maybe even more than men. Of course there are people out there that believe women should be homemakers but this is probably not the majority, everyone has their own beliefs and customs. A woman can be whatever she wants as long as she works for it and is qualified; they are not just going to hand someone a job, this goes for men also. There are things that women have advantages over men also, such as laws and regulations that make sure an equal number of women to men are hired. Also there are physical attributes that women have that can and do give them advantages over men. But what you said about you refuse to let a man pay for you, I respect that a lot. But sometimes you should let someone pay for you and open your door. All women deserve the chivalry of having their door being opened for them.
ReplyDeleteI was definitely brought up the same way that you were. I am the youngest of three children and the only girl but I was never treated like I was less capable of anything because I was a girl. My brothers always included me in things and I never heard “no you can’t because you’re a girl”. My parents have always told me that I can be whatever I want to be. They have always done what they could to make sure that I would be independent. The main reason they want me to have a strong education is so that I will be able to take care of myself without relying on a man. I think it’s good that you are such a strong woman, but you are right about needed to find a middle ground when it comes to letting a man in. There is nothing wrong with paying for yourself and getting your own door but there’s also nothing wrong with letting someone do those things for you every once and a while. Finding a guy who wants to do those things is a GOOD thing, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he has less respect for you because you’re a woman, but that he respects you in general. Guys have that “provider instinct” and even though you can provide just fine on your own it’s nice for them to get to help. Try letting go every once and a while, I’m sure it would be nice for you and your date!
ReplyDeleteThanks i agree i do need to take the pants off every while and maybe for a little wear the dress in the relationship.lol
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. The world of today is still evolving and us women are viewed as another minority group in the list, Which this really upsets me. I believe that Virginia Woolf was and still to this day, continues to be an inspiration to many women in the world. However, although men use to be the power of the family and women was presented to be a house wife and nothing more, we have to understand that our culture has significantly changed. Many of the women of today have a voice of their own, and that is including choosing their partners. Eventually I have notice that you have become an independent women that loves to feel power and soul for yourself as a women, and I notice that you really don’t like the help of a men, but like I mentioned, thinks have changed and there are many respected man out there that agree and follow up on the definite outlook to women voice and power. Of course in the years when Virginia Woolf wrote this essay, she had no real voice of her own, and it is not until the later years that her works have become very important and known to many people out there. However, thankfully her works have become very influential and they serve as an inspiration to many women writers of today. I believe that you should take the chances to meet with people and deal with your independence at the same time. As long as you remember that you have a voice of your own and a room of your own, than you should keep up the views for women rights.
ReplyDeleteThe story that you opened with was very adorable. It was funny how you used to think that you had to be a king in order to be heard. You sound like you work very hard to show that you can take care of yourself and that is good as well. Although like you mentioned that you feel like you need to balance it out more I agree with that statement. It is good for you to balance it out and let a guy take care of you every once in awhile. You do not need to feel like they you are somehow less independent if you do let him pick up the tab or open the door every now and then. I had a slightly different take on this topic. I do that women should be treated equally and with respect by others and especially men in society but, we also need to realize that we are made differently. Men have their purpose and as do women, we are both better in other areas then the other. With that in mind we should remember that rather than trying to compete with one another as far as genders and trying to be the best we should come together and try to get better results in working together.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your blog. It is so true, that women are looked down on because we go to school or have careers. To us there is nothing wrong with it but if we were in some other country it is like what is wrong with you. I totally love how you said you are a big activist for womens rights haha. I cannot agree with you more, I am the same. Lol. I know how you feel about not letting a guy in either. I am the same and I need to stop too because I do the same. I am like one of those people that I am independent and I say that I do not need a guy to be successful. I also say that I do need any guy’s money to survive either. My dad has taught me that I do not need a guy to live my life because I need to be successful in my own way. I think that this country is almost there for women rights but not really because there are so many people who do not change what they believe. I still say my uncle, he does not like me having a good job and he does not like that I am doing good in school and want to be something. He hates the fact that I want to go to UCLA or one of the good UC schools. But anyways, good job on your blog haha
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